I’ve been doing hair for a couple of decades now, and I’ve been seeing quite a few lovely ladies through college, careers, husbands, kids and….aging. So every now and then I get asked–“Is this (pointing to her long luxurious locks) hair too young for me? You’ll tell me when it’s time to cut it off, won’t you?”
Now I’m the first one to admit, I love a big change, and if a gal is on the fence about a big change like lopping off 8 inches of hair, I’ll push her right off that fence. I get great joy in cutting that pony and handing it to her, because I know she’s going to love it and get tons of compliments and positive feelings from it. But when the question is connected to her age I have an entirely different philosophy about it.
And now, a story…
I remember when I was in high school and my friend’s older sister kept her hair in a bob. My friend told me that her mom (who had passed away a couple of years prior) had told her older daughter that she needed to cut her hair when she became an adult. There may have been an age attached to this, I can’t remember. But this was the first time I heard that a woman should cut her hair when she is “mature”. So then a bunch of life happens and one day I end up in beauty school, preparing to embark on my career as a hairdresser. And one thing that is very apparent to me is that pretty much every older lady has the same haircut and basic style. Short, layered, permed. They came in weekly to get a shampoo and set, spend at least 40 minutes under a dryer, then get their hair combed and teased into a little helmet with curls around the edges. One day it occurred to me, as I was looking through a family high school yearbook from the fifties, these ladies have been wearing their hair this way since they were in high school! Granted, the fifties were the hey day of the helmet hairdo– the sixties brought on the flip, bouffant, and the beehive, then the seventies brought us longer undone hair and the shag. Throw in somewhere one of the most important developments in hairstyles, the emergence of the the Vidal Sassoon geometric cuts, and we have a whole whirlwind of possibilities going on for young women of those decades and after to choose a hairstyle. I myself have worn my hair long and straight to my waist, bobbed, layered, lacquered, and everything in between. To this day I have never settled on “my style” and I doubt I ever will because every time I love my hairstyle, about 6 months later it just quits working for me and I change it. I don’t know why that is when I have a few friends that have had the same basic style for 20-30 years and it still works for them. I’m a little jealous of them, but maybe they’re wishing they could change. The grass is always greener. Anyway, I digress…back to why I say you don’t have to change your hair because of your age.
The whole point of my story is this: There was a time when a girl began to emerge into a woman, and a high percentage of them would begin to wear their hair in an above the shoulder coiffed style. A grown woman didn’t wear her hair long enough for a ponytail, and (this is along the same vein but a little different) there would also come a time when a much older woman would give up coloring her hair because she figured it was no longer “believable”. (I’ve been asked when one should stop coloring hair, and to this I reply, “when are you going to stop wearing makeup?”). There was a time when a mature woman didn’t wear the same type of style as a younger woman, but those days have passed people! When WE were growing up our styles were all over the place. We weren’t setting our hair and sitting under a dryer for and hour as seniors in high school and getting a set and style like many women, who are currently in their 70’s and up, are still doing!
As long as your hair is healthy enough to pull off the length or the style or the color and it’s working for you and you’re happy with it, don’t let anyone, even that nagging voice deep within your head that can sometimes be your worst enemy, tell you you have to wear your hair a certain way because you’re over XX years old. And if they do, tell them come talk to me and I’ll explain it to them for you.